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    Hello Whittier Families, 

    I just wanted to take a moment to help prepare you for the week.  

    • Please make sure you child has appropriate clothes for outside recess. It is getting cold and wet. Layers and a jacket with a hood is very helpful.
    • Tuesday at 6:30 PM:  Join me for the PTA general membership meeting in the library. 
    • Wednesday:  Early Release:  Friendly Reminder -  students are dismissed at 1:10! 
    • No school on Friday due to teacher inservice day! 

    Whittier teachers use RULER to teach and reinforce social emotional learning. All classrooms have a charter and they will be going over their charters in the next couple of weeks.    Here is some information about RULER that you can use at home.  
     

    RULER Skills: 
    R    Recognizing emotions: We teach students to use cues to understand what we are feeling and what others are feeling.
       Understanding emotions:  We teach students to understand the causes and consequences of an emotion.
       Labeling emotions:  We help students identify emotions in stories and in real life. 
    E    Expressing emotions:  We teach students how how we show our emotions in socially appropriate ways.
       Regulating emotions:  We teach students strategies to regulate their emotions. 

    Practicing RULER at Home: 

    • Pay attention to your emotions and the emotions of your children. Point out and discuss the facial expressions, vocal changes, and body language that reflect different emotions.
    •  Discuss with your children what leads them to feel a range of emotions. Share how your feelings have affected your thoughts and behavior.
    •  Use a wide range of emotion words with your children. 
    • Encourage your children to find the best word to describe their feelings.
    • Talk about what your body looks like when you are angry, excited, sad, or calm. 
    • Help children evaluate the best time and place to express their feelings.
    •  Model many different effective strategies for your children when you manage your own feelings. 
    • Help your children find useful and successful strategies for managing the range of emotions they experience.

    RULER ANCHOR TOOLS

    The Mood Meter is a tool to build emotional awareness and understanding. Everyone in the family can get involved by agreeing to check in with themselves and each other on the Mood Meter. First, you ‘plot’ your feelings in one of the quadrants, then think about the specific name of that feeling.  Next you can reflect on what caused you to feel that way, and consider the consequences of that feeling. You can choose a strategy to maintain your mood or to shift it. And you can share your feeling, understanding and strategies with everyone in the family. 

     

    The Family Charter is an agreement about how family members want to feel as part of family life. The Family Charter names specific behaviors likely to evoke and support those feelings, and includes constructive ways of handling conflict. It is a powerful tool to encourage personal and social responsibility to work together towards creating the kind of emotional climate that everyone wants. The Family Charter is creatively displayed, signed by everyone in the family, and revisited often over time.

    The Meta Moment is a tool for prolonging the space in time between when you feel triggered by something or someone and when you respond to that trigger. This 6-step ‘mindful’ process, in addition to slowing us down for the moment, helps each of us to build character by invoking an image of our Best Self. By identifying what “triggers” us, and what we are like when we are our Best Selves, we can be proactive about developing thought and action strategies that align with our values and meet our larger goals. 

    The Blueprint is a tool for helping family members to develop empathy and perspective. Using questions anchored in the skills of emotional intelligence, the Blueprint encourages both children and adults to consider one another’s thoughts and feelings when resolving conflicts or differences, and to identify constructive solutions. Used effectively, the Blueprint builds compassion and trusting relationships within the family, and engenders optimism in the challenging moment. 

    Here is an interesting article and website on social emotional intelligence and a RULER community site.

    http://rulercommunity.yale.edu

    https://www.nytimes.com/2013/09/15/magazine/can-emotional-intelligence-be-taught.html?pagewanted=all

    Thank you for all you do and Remember PAWS UP FOR WILDCATS!

    Stephanie Clark 

    Every Child, Every Opportunity, Every Day!